I am sorry you are going through this. My H is also in MLC. If your wife is truly in MLC you must realize THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. She has big time issues she needs to deal with. Give her lots of space and continue on with your life and responsibilities.
Work on yourself, for yourself, no one else.
We are here to offer support and help you through this.
It has been a year since my divorce was filed. He is dragging his feet. Don't panic about your sitch, you have time and anything can happen.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11