One foot in front of the other....

[Yoyowife]

H4C,
Your situation is totally different from the rest of ours. You have to put your daughter first. Your daughter has too much stress placed on her. Have you thought about making an appointment with her school counselor and letting her know what is going on. She has to keep your conversaion confidential. Let her talk to your daughter. She is a third party so your daughter won't be "playing both of you" as your wife put it. It is also good documentation that for you, if it comes down to child custody issues. But more importantly your daughter needs some counseling. Do not put this off, most children will be getting out for the holidays so you need to talk to the counselor Monday. I would ask her not to mention to your daughter or wife that you were there. You don't want the fallout coming back on your daughter.