Bomber, About the flirtation thing, my H is also like that, he gets a perk out of interacting ( superficially) with others. It can be with men, but it's much more,well, flirty, with women. I always felt it had the potential to cross the line. It always bothered me. He's much more aware of boundaries now...I mean, we have had the boundary talk to death...oh you have to hear this one, the OW lived on Boundary Avenue, I kid you not, but even with all this, he still is who he is. I just hope he and I have both learned something here...me not to shut down when something is bothering me, and him to be a little more sensitive to me.
I have to say, I am pretty much clueless about the flirting stuff, but I just had my own example of it, and it is powerful stuff...I can see how anyone can fall into this.
