We will need to sell the house as neither one of us will be able to afford it on our own. I will likely rent for about a year until I can find a house. She will be in an apartment for a long time (several years or until she remarries).
And yes, I intend to shoot for shared custody. It's becoming the standard arrangement around here in divorce/custody situations (from what I have read). She is going to fight my request for shared custody. She wants sole custody (and the child support money that comes with it).
To her, it's really the same. What I mean is that whether the kids spend four nights a month with me or 14, in her mind, it will have no impact on them. In fact, she considers the divorce to be "impact-neutral" for the kids. They will be OK. She has seen other kids get through a divorce OK, therefore, her kids will as well. So it's really a money grab for her. Never mind my parental rights and responsibilities.
And her cheating on me will have absolutely no bearing upon the divorce or child custody arrangements. The courts here consider infidelity to be completely irrelevant.
