I know you're scared, sweetheart. You're in a very scary situation. You might try something like picking a five minute period every day when you're alone... in the shower, or walking the dogs, or driving somewhere, where you really indulge the scary feelings, and then put them on the shelf as best you can until the next day. Maybe a weekly massage where you sob your guts out during the session, and then go back to life as normal.
Lilly, I know this is wrong..maybe I shouldn't say wrong because I don't know if there is a right & a wrong way to deal But I find myself NOT wanting to be around IC as much. I love my time with him, but it just acts as a reminder of what could happen. When I'm working, or grocery shopping or whatever...my mind is away from the worries. kwim? This is sooooo sad for me because I know, I know this hurts his feelings....even though he'll never let on like it does
Maybe I'll try what you're saying to see if that will change things around for me...right now, I'm using things like that to take my mind away from the feelings instead of using them to indulge my feelings. Worth a try
Originally Posted By: Lillieperl
Do y'all have any religious faith to fall back on? I'm not talking about a fatalistic "God's will is for me to suffer" kind of thing, but more of a "I'm always in God's loving hands even when it doesn't feel like it."
Funny you should ask...a little background on the IC's. I grew up in a very unstructured, un-religious home. My brother, sister and I were never exposed to religion of any sort. It wasn't until I met IC that my beliefs changed. IC was raised with lots of Christian faith. His 2 main childhood influences..his dad & his grandpa, while not following their religion to a "T", were very set in their ways of what was "morally right & wrong." I had the honor to meet his grandpa before he passed and I wish I could have met IC's dad...someday IC turned me on to this faith...he may not come across on here as being moral, but he really is a great guy. He sticks to what he thinks is the right thing to do and does not waver. He would give the last shirt off his back to anyone of you on here...no questions asked. I appreciate him turning me on to Christianity because I don't know where I would be with this situation without my faith in God. {as Miss IC doubles her prayers because her boy does stir up some sh!t on here }
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