DR Chapter 2 - Think Small

[marc_d]

Wow, thanks for the great reply. I appreciate your help and advice. I agree with much of what you said. I have tried to seperate myself as much as I can from her family but its hard to sometimes, like the other day she asked me out because her family was asking for me, but at first I declined because I dont want to come out just for them, but she insisted because her family would question it so I didnt want to make matters worse and I went over, but we wound up spending the whole time together mostly.

As for her getting pushed farther away the more they question her, I agree, which is why part of me wishes she would tell them about our situation in hopes they will learn to back off.

I am going to try to be supportive and listen to her problems with the family and keep trying to seperate myself from them as well, because I agree in that she see's me with them. I know in the past I knew more about her family events than she did because of talking to her sisters. I stopped communicating like that with them a while ago though.

I guess im still just trying to learn to be patient. I get scared at times that what if Im kidding myself? what if Im just making up excuses as to why things have taken 7 months on this break, but I know there were things I did that screwed me up, and my counsler and my best friend (the ones who really know everything about the situation) also agree about the family issue being the main problem and in the beggining I wasnt as supportive as I needed to be.

Its just hard to draw the line as to being friendly and supportive by making contact with her, because I dont want to come off as being needy or pushy. I just want to see how she is at times and see if we can talk about things( I dont mean our relationship).

Thanks State Flower! I appreciate your tips and I hope I hear from you again. Happy holidays!