W was offered a job by friend as receptionist for $12/hr to start, parking paid in the building where job was(downtown), $1 more after 6mos. She has said she wants an office job but she's afraid her butt will get fat, LOL. Told her that we both have the same problem, more diligence that when we put 5lbs on lose it. I seem to put weight on at T-day, Christmas and vacas. If I went on diet for 2 weeks lose the 5, instead it builds up over the years until it's 40 to 50lbs to loose.
Her problem with job hunting is she wants to answer ads in the paper, I tell her most office jobs are gotten thru temp services, if the office likes you they offer you a job, if not they send you back. She had a job at a mail sorting place operating a machine that paid her $14/hr, she quit four years ago and took a job at another mail place as a secretary for her former boss, paid $14.50/hr. If she kept these jobs she might be making 15 or 16 now. When she was home I offered to work more OT so she could go to school for something, she didn't want to. I think she thinks she isn't smart enough to do well. She is a lot smarter than she gives herself credit for.
As far as you tank is concerned I would buy a test for nitrites also. What type of fish do you keep in the tank together? Some do not get along with others, they will fight causing damaged fins and bodies, leaving wounds that infections can set in. Any white spots that look like salt on bodies? Also angel fish are a brackish water fish, they like some salt in the water also like soft water. Soft water is imperative to produce spawns.
Talked to S26 tonight for about 3 hours, W still hasn't called him in over two months. He says if he doesn't hear from her he will not spend Christmas Eve with her and her family. Again told him she is having a MLC even if she denies. One aspect of MLC is withdrawing from friends and family. Don't take it as personal. He is I think getting very bitter, don't want him to be. He said he's very upset with her about her wanting to get a D. Doesn't know if she does if he'll forgive her, doesn't think our problems are that bad. Even though he's an adult he is very hurt. If only she knew this.
Just remember he might get closer then pull away, is seems to be the way it works . Don't get discouraged if he does. I've been reading posts in MLC forum, there's others sitch's that have taken 2 years or more for S to want to work on R. I might try to post there, seems where my R with W is at.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
