LFL, I am so sorry to see this thread and read what you are going through. I have been in and out with your history. Though, I get the feeling that your H just detaches in a "close your eyes and it does not exist" type of way. Ironically, his behaviors, from your perspective at least, seem to be rooted in good nature. It is so hard to read about your M failing when there are still roots of sincerity still there. Yes, your H is clearly loosing his grip on the motivation to work as he demonstrated with his comments. After all this work you have put in, he knew that "platonic" would be a dagger butterflying your heart. Of course you are hurt! He understood the meaning of his words. The question is, were those the words of a man giving up or just the words of an insensitive idiot lashing out?

My thoughts and well wishes are with you.


By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates