DR Chapter 2 - Think Small

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Well everyone, on I have a question that is scaring me. On December 12th I went to a concert with my GF, and before it started she asked me if I was still seeing a therapist. I downplayed it and said I was but I might be stopping soon. I said this becasue I didnt want to show her I was still so upset. She also then brought up 2 other situations. One night while at a club with her and other friends, a girl started talking to me but I eventually was able to move away from her because it was uncomfortable for me. Also on Halloween night a friend of her friend asked to hold my arm while in NYC because lots of guys were howling at her so I was a gentleman and agreed.

Anyways, my GF mentioned these 2 events on the 12th of december before the concert and said she was like, "ok, he's moving on". I told her that this was not the caseof me moving on. If anything I was on the recieving end but the 2nd case I was just being a gentleman. She also asked me how my reaction would be if there was someone else she was interested in, but she immediatley followed that by saying there was'nt, but she just wants to know how I would react. I just made a joke and said I would be supportive and tell you if you fall off the horse to get right back on again.

Of course I didnt mean this!! But I dont want to tell her no either. My Counsler said she thinks that she is just maybe testing the waters with me and seeing how I am feeling, and its not that she is looking to move on necessarily.

There were many times in our relationship where my GF would discuss things about our future and committment but I guess I never gave back enough reassurance to her for this and part of me feels like it is also a cause and if I can show her I want to commit and how serious I am for her that it might help too. I dont know. Im just so lost and confused.