Ok guys. I know a lot of us must be dealing with the same headache of figuring out who is going to have the kids when and how to handle a separated family at Christmas. After getting burned at Thanksgiving (didn't get to see my kids because it was "her week") I was determined that would not happen again. So today I let her know they will be staying with me Christmas because it will be my week. Apparently this was somewhat of a shock as she then asked if I hate her. I had to put on my mlc translator unit to appreciate that comment. Everything in mlc land is about them, right? Or could that have been guilt speaking? Told her no, I don't hate her in any way, stopped short of saying I'm still in love with you. (proof old dogs can learn) I'm now bracing for the onslaught of mlc fury I fear is coming as I have learned that is the price paid for not giving the mlcer exactly what they want when they want it. Taking a tough stand will be a separation 180 for me. Any of you guys have similar problems with the holidays? Her assumption was that she'd have the kids for Christmas even though she had then for Thanksgiving and I would take them New Years Eve (duh, so she could party with boyfriend?) We have no formal custody or visitation agreement, just a pattern of swapping off every other week. Do you think the "hate" comment was guilt or mlc self centered filtering?
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
