I feel like I pull the wagon while BB drags her feet, or she is content to sit there when no one pulls it because she is petting her cats and dogs.
Anyway, good way to describe your feelings.
Sorry your lives is messed up with the cancer and other medicals.
My sister had lung cancer and was up beat when she was going to treatment. When the chemo was over, she got a little scared because she wasn't actively combating the cancer. While getting treatment, she was doing something, which helped her stay up-beat. Two years later, she still is in remission.
The difference was, doing something felt like she was making progress. Maybe that is where IC gets some of his strength.
Most guys are fixers, so working on it leads to thinking success. FWIW.
