Blindsided, We ALL have bad days. I try to ensure that the good days outnumber the sad days. This will come for you in time as well.
The sadness I feel is for my old H...for our old M. For my family to be back together. None of this is possible with the person he is now. He has to go through this if we a chance and ufortunately for me that it going to mean having sad days
It can be discouraging to be working so hard at all the things I need to like detaching and DB'ing and to not see results. But that is where I have to keep reminding myself that the key ingredient in all of this is TIME. So what I need is patience. On my sad days...I post here. I let it out and get support from the friends I've made.
Don't be sad by reading my post. Did you also read the encouraging responses that were posted to me? Those words help me so much. I find it really helpful for my own PMA to post to other people with encouraging things. It's usually easier to say it to someone to else than to say it to myself. When you read a post where you feel sad for someone...respond to them in their thread. Offer some encouraging words or maybe something that you've read from another thread. Say the things that you know you should be telling yourself. It helps...trust me. J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
