You are absolutely correct. Between the time that I posted my knee-jerk reaction (above) and now, I have re-thought the entire situation. Here is how I see it:
- She sees our marriage as absolutely over. No question there.
- She is going to do whatever she wants, without regard to me, as she has been doing for the past year.
- She is going to get this dog. Nothing will stop her.
- She sees the dog as her "ticket" to the kids. After the divorce is final, every kid that lives with her will mean (in her mind) more child support money for her. And she wants as much money as she can get from me. So if the divorce judge says to each kid, "Which parent do you want to live with?" she needs all three kids saying, "MOM!!" This dog is her ticket to a unanimous decision in that regard. In addition, when we split, both dogs will go with her, and the kids will want to be with the dogs. More manipulation on her part.
- She is desperate for companionship. She is trying to fill the void left by her boyfriend's absence. She wants the unquestioned love that her ex-boyfriend provided.
These next two completely parallel DBing:
- My objecting to the dog will do nothing to endear myself to her.
- The more I object to the dog, the more she will want to get it. This is not an opinion. It is a statement of fact.
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This is why I have decided to change my position. I will not win. So I may as well be gracious in defeat. I have told her that I support the purchase of the additional dog. I told her that I want to go with them to pick-up the dog.
It is patently obvious that she has zero respect for me. My opinion means nothing to her. Objecting to the dog will not change her opinion. Until the divorce is final, any attempt that I make to "earn" her respect will be a wasted effort.
I give up.
So I told her that I support the dog. I told her that I would like to accompany them to the place where they will purchase this dog. She refused. I am not welcome. So I told her that I insist. I want to go. She grunted and nodded her head. I guess that means, "Glad to have you on board!!!" .... Just a guess..
The problem is, the weather service has predicted six inches of snow and ice tomorrow. We may never get out of here anyway.
