Didn't get much time to talk to H about the call. I only mentioned a couple things while we were getting ready for work this morning. The one thing she said that really got to me was that she thought he was seeing another woman because he was not returning her calls ... because that's what he did to me. She said many times when I called he just didn't answer his phone. The more I thought about it, the more it upset me. I told him that's why she thought there was someone else. And, I told him the fact that he ignored calls from me, his wife, really upset me.
He jokingly said perhaps he should see someone else (gee, what a comedian). I jokingly responded, "sure, go ahead, and then you can pack your bags cause I ain't going through this again!"
I don't know if OW was drunk or not. She may have had a drink or two under her belt, but I don't think she was snockered. She sounded in control -- a bit overly excited and perhaps anxious but not drunk. But I don't really know her so ...
And, no, I don't think there is AOW (had to figure out that acronym!). H is pretty much home all the time now.
But some good news, which I hesitate to post after reading updates from others...
The big winter gala for my work is tomorrow night -- semi-formal affair. Last year we got a room but the night was busted (thanks to the A I didn't know about at the time). This year he said he didn't want to spend the night because he didn't want to make waves with OW. That really upset me but I didn't push the issue.
So today H calls me when I was still in training. I got the message later. He said, "I was thinking about going ahead and getting a room Saturday night. After the phone call from OW last night, I don't know if you even want to be with me ... please call me back as soon as you can." I WAS FLOORED!
I called him back but before saying yes, I had to tell him one other thing OW said. Actually, it was the only thing she asked me during our convo, the rest of the time she rambled on. She said she knew my work party was Saturday night. She asked if we had gotten a room.
I wanted to say it was none of her beeswax, OR I wanted to but because of you we didn't ... instead I simply said, No. She was very relieved to hear that. I think perhaps more because she thought H was lying to her, and not because she didn't want him to be with me.
So I told H this before answering his question about getting a room. I thought he would change his mind. Instead his response was: I don't care. This is a big night for you (I'm receiving an award). I think we both need to get the h3ll out of dodge for a weekend.
I think the A is officially OVER!!! He never would agree to or suggest getting a hotel room if OW was still in the picture. He's been babying her for a long time.
I was so happy coming home, but then everything hit me and I ended up in tears. I know we still have a long way to go (and the legal sitch to deal with)...
Have so much more going through my head but I'll stop here for awhile...
