LO, I sure wish we could give your H a clunk or two on the head. I'm so angry for you. It doesn't make sense to me that he won't move out, he wants a D, but he won't move out. That just seems to be the logical move to me before D -- to separate. But you didn't even get to that point. And, he seems so confused so it seems even more pointless! Why is he in such a hurry? You could be right, it could be OW fueling the fire. I agree wholeheartedly with everyone's advice: start acting like you're divorced.
I don't remember if you've said much about OW, do you know anything about her sitch?
