So you are suggesting that I say to her, "I will agree to the dog if you agree to work on the marriage?"

This would be foolish. First, I want her to return of her own accord, not because she wants a dog. Second, her desire for self-improvement should have a basis stronger than the desire for another dog.

I have a lot of respect for you, Sara, but I disagree.


Me: 48
Divorce final May 2010
B: 19
B: 15
G: 9