Well she didnt really respond, she said she would kie this all to move on as well. but she sent me an email which i read on my blackberry

here it is:

This is all I have to say.......since you cant be around me with out picking a fight,

Regarding our children, I rely on Cindy for info because you're not considerate enough to let me know when they're sick, or answer the phone or even return my voice mails. You only do this out of spite. We both know who truly showed concern and interest in our kids during our marriage. And it's quite refreshing to see that you are finally experiencing what I have experienced with each of them from their birth until just a few weeks ago. See what you have been missng out on over these last few years? Too bad it is so late in the game, things might have been different for us. Keep it up. Our children deserve your attention and I'm glad they are finally getting it.

Regarding the financial issues, it's apparent you will also be unattentive and lazy (as with our children), until you are completely forced to do the right thing. Why not keep your word and provide what you promised me? The car question isn't answered by you saying "I've handled Zach". Did you pay him the 5K?! You keep telling me you are going to, but we both know what you SAY and what you DO are always two completely different things. Also, it's your own fault if it's costing you 10K. You know the history of our car situation, and it's your own doing. That's WHY you've agreed to pay the 5K. So do it and quit whining. And will you turn over the TV or not? That's not a money issue, Derek - that's just you being rude and spiteful again.

I'll give you more details about my life when I feel like it. You just provide what you've said you would. My love & concern for the kids is inherent, and I don't need to prove that to you in every email regarding finances. I'm trying to establish myself, in order to then be able to take care of the kids, as you agreed. This should be obvious, but I forget - you're not the brightest or most sensitive person, are you.

Thanks for the constant reminders why I left you.

So i responded to this that i will not be a backboard for her to justify leaving. I told her that i will not have my kids raised by a woman who books bar gigs and runs from everything difficult in her life. I told her that what is happening is not spite its reality.

So people where do i go from here????

OBTW i texted her and stated i was sorry about the R discussion it was not the right place or time and let her know i have been upset about our daughter being sick.. thats all i wrote


Me 35
W 26
S 3
D 10 months
I have custody
Bomb 11/9/07
W PA 10/07 ended 2/08
Removed W from house 11/16/07
I filed in Nov.
D put on hold
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1268484&page=6&fpart=16