If I initiate H will sometimes participate in a regular vanilla kinda way, sometimes he will lay there and he will accomodate me ("lay there and think of England") and sometimes he will come up with an excuse or even worse, pretend he doesn't realize that I am initiating.
If I mention that someone showed sexual interest in me, H takes it in stride, "Of course, you are hot". What????????????????????
Karen
(((((( Karen ))))))
I haven't read your entire situation from the start, but what have you tried...not sexually...to bring to his attention that things are not up to par in the sex department? Maybe you've tried the dramatic, maybe not...just wondering.
I personally don't know what it takes. IC and myself discussed divorce...pretty dramatic, but it still didn't open my eyes. Fortunately for us, it did open IC's eyes and he took it from there.
Hugs to you Karen, I hope somehow, someway, that things will turn around for you and your husband. You sound like a real sweetheart and deserving of the best
