Hang in there and be strong. You are doing the right thing and, while I have thankfully not had to go through what you are going through, I think you are immensely better to have her weigh her options now and make a decision to move forward after full disclosure. If you hadn't found out, she would have continued to weigh her options beneath the concealment of the EA.
You have a lot of people pulling for you.
PF
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
