Well, B50, while she's going through her thing, it's a great time to go through your own personal inventory. Beofre I found out about my H's affair, I was already on the road to self improvement, trying to figure out what went wrong where and how to be a better person. Over time, I have dropped a lot of anger/control, have gotten more spiritual and less judjmental. I've even gotten back my girly giggles!
Thesee changes were registering in my H, even though he was entangled in an affair. So, while you're doing the man thing of having her own up to things, you can also re-work you in another way, perhaps a more gentle way, although gentle is not the right word, or maybe it is!
