LRT UNDER SAME ROOF II

[COG]

Craig,

not to blame my parents, but i did not have a very good example of how a marriage is suppose to look like.

That's a big first step to admit that, AND admit that you don't have the skills you need to take part in a healthy M. If you can truly see that, admit that, accept that, then you will have a better understanding as to why your W wants out. You'll also have a heart that is open to change.

You are not alone. My father was a good hard working man, but he's an alchoholic. He yelled and criticized us kids and my mother so much that I thought it was just normal. So that's how I learned to deal with life. Well it just doesn't have to be so, and thank God I finally saw the light.

I think one of the things that my W is so proud of me for is that I broke the cycle. I still loose it with the kids sometimes and I'm still working on that, but my W knows she's my best friend, and biggest supporter. My days of judging her, criticizing her, thinking of her as less intellegent and less capable than me are OVER! I can now realize that it's mostly the other way around.

The miracle of the whole transition is that I am the one that is most blessed. I don't have to expend the energy and the stress in judging, criticing, and being angry with her. I just accept her and love her as she is, an imperfect human being, just like me.

Plus, women speak a different language than men do. It's not better or worse, just different. Their minds and feelings work differently also. "Men are from Mars Women from Venus" is a good book. Learn to speak their language.

God Bless,

COG