Hi. if you are going to talk to OMs W, you might want to print out some of those emails. I know some women that when confronted by their own BF/Hs OWs H, denied it and said that it must be a misunderstanding. DENIAL is a powerful thing. No one wants to believe their S is cheating so having a little proof wouldn't hurt.
If she doesn't want to admit it - sit down with her and read them outloud. I'd like to take credit for that idea, but it was my Hs. He did it to me which is why i recommended it. It was one of the most heartbreaking things i have ever had to sit through. I would have stopped with out that, but obviously your wife doesn't want to admit what's going on, nor is she willing to stop talking to him. (which by the way, should not be an option for you)
when my H was accusing my of having an A before i ever did it, the first thing i always did was ask what i could do to prove i wasn't. What he needed from me. During the EA, he asked and I got mad and defensive. I knew i was in the wrong and took it out on him. If she honestly thought their friendship was innocent, she wouldn't have gotten so defensive.
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