Can't take credit for the idea but I do think it's a good one.

Full and frank admission is the way to go. The no secrets route worked for us BUT my H wanted out of the A; he chose when to tell me. Even so we had a week of hell when I wasn't sure what was happening. H took a week off work. Well the first day I made sure he did - I flattened his car battery by leaving the lights on overnight and hid the keys to my car. By the time a hire car arrived I had told all his staff I knew about OW, (one of H's employees) and senior management told H, (who is the CEO), not to go in for the rest of the week whilst they got his legal team on it to protect the Co. position. (They probably hired security for OW as well - I was spitting feathers and growling......just joking about the security.....not about the feathers and growling!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength