Yeah, as with everything we do dbwise, confronting someone is a fine line too. My H tells me now why didn't i confront him on things...and I say I did for years, so that's why I finally left you alone to do your own journey because I couldn't control that.
I think you have to feel out your situation to know if and when a confrontation would work. Test and monitor I guess.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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