I_W, at the moment I have forgotten the history of was's past, but if it was about him not being confident and never making decisions, then I think what you said about acting as if on the xmas party could be a good thing. However, either way, I think he needs to watch the results of that approach.
it doesn't hurt to try different approaches, as long as you don't keep doing what doesn't work.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
