Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

[Dom R]

Thanks Dom. I was actually looking into that a couple days ago. my H is crazy with trusting people with his stuff (childhood issues) so i just have to find someone that he's willing to give a shot. I was talking to my aunt last night and she recommended hiring a live in nanny. Some that could watch the girls during the day and as compensation i'd pay her the $1200 that we pay for daycare now and a free room.

I think that's right about the going rate. fantastic.. so money wont be an issue for you.

You just have to be SUPER careful about who you pick. that's the tricky bit. sigh.

The "free room" bit, i think is usually for an "au pair" situation. There may be others, that dont actually need or want the "free room", but just want a daytime situation. You probably have a few different options open, for that kind of money.

He's definately is one of those "the house must be spotless or i'm going to be miserable" types. That's why its so hard for me to understand why he won't help.

heh... everyone has their quirks. Sometimes, it isnt as important
to understand WHy they are the way they are, as it is to just find a way to happily get along with their quirks

I just don't see a mess when i walk in and there are a couple things on the counter, to him, it's a mess.

heh... i know what that's like. i just "dont see it" sometimes, either.