Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

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Thanks Dom. I was actually looking into that a couple days ago. my H is crazy with trusting people with his stuff (childhood issues) so i just have to find someone that he's willing to give a shot. I was talking to my aunt last night and she recommended hiring a live in nanny. Some that could watch the girls during the day and as compensation i'd pay her the $1200 that we pay for daycare now and a free room. my aunt said that there are nanny services, i might look into that. I guess they pick up the house too! God bless them. i need help, if H won't do it then I'll have to pay someone.

He's definately is one of those "the house must be spotless or i'm going to be miserable" types. That's why its so hard for me to understand why he won't help. I want the house clean too, but a little clutter doesn't bother me. That was one of the big things we talked about with the MC (since he didn't want to talk about his issues) is that, we are different in that way and we have to learn to accept that about one another. I just don't see a mess when i walk in and there are a couple things on the counter, to him, it's a mess.

It was super hard to bite my tongue when he said if it were just him, but i know that was important. I didn't want to insult or upset him, i just wanted him to know that he didn't need to insult me.