The links to my sitch is posted below. In short my husband left for vacation in August still wanting badly to work things out, he came back a different man and not the compassionate, loving man that I have always known. I suspected that he had an affair or at the very least was contemplating it. I was right he was having and EA. They talk on IM and email each other everyday.He denies it and continues to although I have confronted him with some of the emails and conversations exchanged. She knows that he is married but he continues to lie and say we are nearing the end of our divorce (he hasn't even filed yet). Regardless of his lies she I still morally bankrupt to get involved with a married man.
In reading the post "you were all right...unfortunately" I noticed several others giving the advise to expose the affair. I haven't spoken with my DB coach about this possibility but I can't help but think that this could be the worst possible thing to do especially after all my DBing. I think it will enrage him and make him push for the divorce. Furthermore, I love this man dearly and do not want to publically shame him in front of his friends or his/my family. However, I don't see an end in sight for this EA.
