Pregnant and abandoned #3

[NikB]

Stop answering his calls. Period. Then you don't NEED any strength to stop these conversations.

Make whatever financial arrangements you need to make, figure out any other "business" things that need to be resolved, and then stop contact completely until you get yourself together.

Picture that analogy of him running as you pursue. How far away do you want to chase him? How fast do you want him to run? If you keep this up he'll be running so fast he won't even stop to look over his shoulder at you.

And if you continue to let him crush you, when/if he DOES look back over his shoulder, he's going to see a desparate, crying, sad, totally unattractive person. Is that who you really want to be??? I don't think so - you are stronger and you are better than that.

STOP ANSWERING HIS CALLS!!

He can email you, can he not??? That gives you time to calm down before you reply and even possibly post here for help with editing.

If you are too weak to just let it go to voicemail, consider going as far as getting a new phone number. Don't get a "forward" put on the old one. Then make a goal to NOT CALL HIM for a set period of time. That puts you back in control. I'd also get it blocked from showing your # on caller ID - so that when you do talk to him via phone it will still be 100% on your terms.

I would probably tell him that you've done this so he doesn't totally freak out given the baby - but tell him that you're changing your phone number, and that all contact is to be via email. Don't make it about him or a big "in your face" thing.. if he pushes you for an answer just say that you need to take care of yourself and need the space for now.

Then I'd make a goal for yourself on when you do contact him again - maybe time based, but even better would probably be emotion based. I.e. when you have had a certain number of good weeks in a row.

I sincerely hope you did NOT give in and have sex w/him.