Here is a story that I thought I would share with all of you to see how you feel about this sitch....
A good friend of mine the other night got a phone call from his MIL. It was about his FIL and he was in the hospital. His MIL told him that his FIL was on his death bed and did not have much life left in him. This was something that came about suddenly, so it is somewhat shocking to the family. Now why am I sharing this story with all of you.....well keep reading......
So my friend and his W went to the hospital to spend time with his MIL and FIL. Now one piece of information that I should point out is that my friends FIL was despised by his W and children. I have had conversations with my friends W and the very mention of her Dad just makes her blood boil. You see her Dad has been involved with another woman for over 20yrs. In fact, as crazy as this sounds its true, the OW tried to go to the funeral of the FIL's mother as if she was apart of the family. My friends BIL's did not allow that to happen. Three of them met this lady at the door and made her leave. Telling her that she is not apart the family and to get the heck out of their fathers life because he is married to their mom. Now they all realize that their Dad is a piece of dirt for the way he choose to live his life. Now that he is on his death bed and they are not giving him much more time..... he is trying to apologize to everyone for how he lived and ask for forgiveness, etc......
I know this whole D process has made me a little bitter and I am working on that....but I thought to myself....isn't life convenient for this man. He destroyed his M and his relationship with his children.....Now that he is dying he wants to apologize for everything.
I haven't had a chance to talk to my buddy about it, but I would think that what his FIL is saying has got to sound empty. He lied to the family for years, they became numb to his antics, and did not associate with their Dad. I don't know for sure but forgiveness has got to be hard....I know that they should forgive him and probably already have...but I would have had a hard time with it.
I know probable the wrong attitude to have.... Just thought I would throw that out there for everyone, and to see what you all thought.
Another odd thing, unrelated to the above story, is that my XW wants to meet our girls and I for breakfast Saturday for our kid exchange. Seems a bit weird and possibly confusing for my girls...I am not sure if I should do it or not.
