Don't count the days, just live one moment at a time. My W and I were the perfect couple, as most of our friends told us regularly. Needless to say they were all SHOCKED to hear we were having problems. It took us about 5 YEARS to work through our issues, including four years of separation. It took that long because it too ME that long to admit, accept, and take responsibilty for MY sins.
But it was my W that left ME! But it took me many years to realize and accept that she was RIGHT in leaving me. I wouldn't listen to anything else, but the searing pain of loosing my family opened my granite heart, and leveled my giant ego.
This struggle you are in is not about your W my brother, it's about YOUR salvation. Can you love as Jesus loves? Can you see your W through the eyes of her creator? Can you see Jesus in her face? That is your struggle, that is your calling, that is your challenge. If you are successful at it then as IWMIW said your W will reciprocate love when you let it flow so freely. Unconditional, without expectations, without ties and strings, without reciprocation. Give it freely as our saviour does.
God Bless the Struggle,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
