is he too young for MLC?

[Dom R]

It seems to me that this is one of the last places people want to give advise on. ...
Are we all doomed to the big D because we are here?

no way. there have been success stories for people in the "we're separated" category. Unfortunately, it is rare, and a LOT more work, than people in the other categories.. with the sole exception of the "divorced but not done" category

To cheer you up(?) I'm going to offer you a piece of advice, then:

you said to your husband,
" I told him it was none of his business. I don't pry so he shouldn't either. "

that makes it "fair".. but also confirms the "we're going to stay separate" mentality.

If you think that is not the way you would prefer.... maybe it would be better to approach it from the other side. eg:

"if you think I shouldnt know who you are talking to, then you shouldnt be bugging me about who i'm talking to".

Similar, yet slightly different, hmm? This way still points out "what you are doing is fair", but it also leaves an opening for him to change the status quo, if he chooses to.


Eh.. it's kinda a toss-up. Depending on how your H reacts to things, your original wording might actually be "better", for longer-term goals that you may have.
As usual, "it depends".

But what bugs me is he never calls at night. Only during the day. I'm feeling like he's only talking to me cuz he's bored. Then when his friends are off work he doesn't give me a second thought. I know I can't do anything about this but it is buging me. I let him set the pace and I don't call him so I don't seem needy but come on this is driving me nuts.

heh... go find something else for you to do at nights. then it probably wont bother you as much.

That way, you also wont be building up resentment. If you let that build up, it may eventually leak out during your daytime conversations with him.