Hi Ellie, Thanks for your reply. It is funny--I did step back a little a few weeks ago, and he immediately assumed I was dating. His response was to ask a woman out to a movie. I know it sounds like "enabling" or something, but I am afraid that his response to me stepping back is to feel rejected and like he "needs" to go out with someone else.
This after almost 30 years of marriage!
I have thought about "adopting the posture of indifference" after my constant availability (sp?). Maybe it would be smart for me to give him the impression that he may be losing me, without being mean or rejecting. Just pleasant and distant.
Any thoughts? I am so afraid to rock the boat, but maybe it is time to lose my fear (now that I have mostly lost the anger).
