Blindsided, I was thinking it might be a good opportunity to make some demands on him...if he is willing to try dating you for a few weeks, leave the OW, go to counseling, come back home after that, sleep in seperate rooms for a few weeks. Then and only then, after the baby and when you are ready you can ML. Of course it will be tough...and you might have to fool around a little before that to keep him on the hook...but if he is willing to do those things you'll have him where you want him!
H 42 W 37 M17 T20 years 3 daughters 11,11,14 seperated 11/26/07 EA neighbor/ moved in w/ him 2/8 Filed for D 01/08 finalized soon