Edit. P.S. In traditional marriage vows, the man doesnt say respect and honor. He says cherish and protect.
He didn't cherish and protect her. He left her.
Yes, he's sorry now, and helpless, and wants to do "something". But it was he who first broke that most fundamental of all promises. The attraction thing isn't the core problem imo, it's that LFL has a mended tear in the fabric of her marriage, and isn't sure the thread won't unravel on her again.
I think, LFL, that you'll probably find it'll hold. Leaving is a fantasy that reality usually doesn't fulfill, and he saw that. He won't do it again. Which doesn't mean that you need to forgive and forget, or even stay with him if you choose not to. Just that he won't do it again.
And I agree with those who say you need to seriously girl up. Just for yourself, to feel vulnerable and alive again. All of us girls need that feeling.
