Show me where, in the post she reacted explosively to, I told LFL what to do? I asked her if the things I mentioned, were how she felt. And I pointed her to a book, that "might help her, if she chose". I dont see anything in there that "told her what to do"
All right Dom. Shall we do our time-honored "subtext" analysis?
This is the post LFL reacted to.
Originally Posted By: Dom R
You enjoyed having sex with OM 2 years ago. REALLY enjoyed it, as opposed to the sex you've had with your H.
Subtext: You're a shallow person! You enjoy sex in an illicit affair (after all you were still married!!!) more than sex with your husband. Of course it would be more titillating. Duh! But you're being BAD. And shallow. And did I mention BAD????
Originally Posted By: Dom R
You enjoyed being in a "blank slate" relationship.
Subtext: see above.
Originally Posted By: Dom R
You figure that finding a new sex/romance partner, is going to be more enjoyable and less work for you, than fixing up your existing relationship with your husband, and working to build a positive sex dynamic between you like Sheila did with her H.
Subtext: You're just lazy. After all, SHEILA fixed her marriage, and you are just like Sheila and your h is just like Sheila's h. No reason why you couldn't do the same! If you weren't lazy that is!
Ok, and this one is the killer:
Originally Posted By: Dom R
The feelings and wellbeing of your two children, are less important then item #3, above.
Subtext: YOU ARE A BAD MOTHER.
At which point any woman worth her salt is going to go for your throat, and anything of value you may have said will get lost in the haze of red which has fallen over her eyes.
