Stop analyzing and go enjoy yourself! When you are tired of lionness, something else will emerge. When he's tired of lionness, he'll let you know. Meanwhile, I don't hear him saying anything ( or is that because you're not letting him speak right now, lol)?
RJ, I tried to tell ya last night "thanks, the checks in the mail" but it just came out as a bunch of mumbling...followed by a "yea baby, keep doing that" from Miss IC
Originally Posted By: Miss IC
I don't know if it's a fear of the bubble bursting, the fear of maybe taking things to far to where IC's perception of me changes, or dare I say..an underlying fear that possibly him not being here {I hate that I think this way...I'm sorry IC, I can't help it} I don't know...as the soul searching continues....
Lets walk through some of these fears..."underlying fear that possibly him not being here"...eh..ok, I'll give you this one and thank you for the sentiment. The initial shock has worn off with me...I think you're still dealing with it, give it time.
"Fear of maybe taking things to far to where IC's perception of me changes" ... Helllooooo !!! IC we're talking about here....Sorry, I'm not some little high saint alter boy! Things would have to go pretty far before you'd be crossing the line with me...I'll be sure to give ya a heads up
Originally Posted By: Miss IC
I feel what Mojo said rings so true with me. I've always been the one to play the part of "pleaser" in bed and hopefully I derived pleasure for myself in the process. Now, I've switched gears into more of a "please myself" attitude and if IC happens to derive pleasure so be it...but it's not my focus. kwim? Selfish? It seems to be working now with IC..but will it..can it continue?
As far as you switching gears into more of a "please myself" attitude...Maybe I'm wrong on this, but Corri, isn't this part of the whole idea that you have been trying to instill? Be responsible for your OWN sexuality?
Mojo, You didn't mention what NG's reaction was when you "bucked" him out of the way to diddle with yourself...to please yourself? As a man, my own personal guess is that it probably turned him on even more...no? Honey, when you switch gears into the "please myself" mode....you are in fact pleasing me. You're taking responsibility for your own sexuality and pleasure and thus lifting that responsibility from me and making it better for both of us. I'll be the first to admit that being the sole source of pleasure to your woman is a great boost to the male ego...but damn, it's a lot to take on...every time! After awhile, it's tiresome...and I'll drop the wagon handle. But to explore together...f*ck, use me how you want - I'll never drop the handle again
