I appreciate your views on Rs, women, etc. But your hard line, beat your chest, respect me, I've been wounded, I'll never love again, I am an island, I am rock, I am Alpha Male stuff... has its limits.
I think it is wonderful Mr. LFL wants to go to counseling. So what's he waiting for? LFL doesn't have to go with him. She doesn't have to approve. He can go do what he needs to do to feel he has done everything to save his marriage.
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He hasnt done that. He isnt a jerk, like some people whoes mirror image I find familiar. He is lost.
This is where the woman leans over and says "honey, let's stop and ask for directions." And in his own way, Mr. LFL has said just that. Well GREAT!!! DO IT.
And then you say his behavior isn't attractive to her. period. It sure as hell isn't.
So sometimes you DO have to say... 'fck it. I'm done.' Does that give a person the right to go out and have an affair? No. Does it give them the right to file for a D? No. But I can tell you... I sure as hell have gotten out of the car and started walking to get my own azz UNLOST if/when his dumb Alpha azz can't get himself/we unlost and on top of it, can't find it within his being to ASK for directions.
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In fact its been a toungue in cheek wink wink game to you ever since I first addressed his feeling respect and appreciation. That is actually in your power and YOUR JOB according to your vows, to maintain.
In your own words... respect is not simply given. It's earned. It goes both ways. And if he can't pull his head out of his LD azz just like every other LD around here has to do to help save their M... then yeah... a well meaning 'fck you' can sometimes do wonders for that whole 'respect' thing.
You're disrespect of the female gender is really starting to magnify, my friend. I'm sure NOP could give you quite a few insights into why this might be so.
