Input, WH and I own business together

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[quote=micoms]Grid,

Great that you had dinner with H. Other than the few awkward silences how did it go? Did you offer that he could stay at your house while in town?

Dinner went very well and we both really enjoyed. Again when we ordered we orderd exactly same order except H has different toss salad dresing!!!! We always are doing that, errie.
Nope didn't really offer that evening to let him stay or ask him to stay @ house. H has made it clear he doesn't want to. So if he so wishes to cut his nose off despite his face so be it.
Now on Weds I had to go see a C, sent by no-fault med. insurance carrier. Why I don't know. H went with me as wittness. C even got into break up of marriage (why ) I turned to H and said guess you have to answer this one as you have never answered for me and you left !!! He didn't answer, just stepped around. But in proccess C and I talked about how i was handling break up, how I felt, reading, eye opener info., lack of education on relationship skills, etc. I mentioned Michele Davis and he was impressed and knew of her work, etc. Even gave me title of another book to read when one spouse doen't wish to work on R, how the other spouse can change non working spouse and R. ROFl, with H sitting there. After we left H said, "you know I believe the C was very impressed with you."
C stated to me he saw not reason to question why I am on all the pain meds, etc. WHEW!

Hindsight is both a curse and a blessing.

yep, sure is. Something strange about W's job stitch. Maybe it is only a symptom not the problem. Ever look at it that way?

Told her I would want her to get a Mon thru Fri job, normal hours, one weekend we'd go somewhere, another city, bed and breakfast to veg out and spend the weekend together, so I'd give it up.

Careful mike, "you want her to change jobs"? From her point of view at the moment this is not about what you want and she will just take your wants as controlling her, telling her how to live her life. Easy words, appreciate changing jobs, would she consider change,might she feel happier and less stressed with different work hoursetc.

I think she has some resentment about soccer things because I used to coach 2 kids teams and ref with S's, spent a lot of time away from her.

LOL, I am sure she does, remember what Michele says about time together. Hell, H announced he didn't like dog showing, after he is taking lessons, going to seminars, etc. Plus I averaged 1 show weekend a month, didn't think that was asking to much, do you? Granted a couple months I had two show weekends in one month but only two maybe three months this happen.

Wow, I couldn't stand to work your wife's schedule and I know my H wouldn't be able to stand it. Even state police with constant rolling schedules don't work hours like W is. That is crazy!!

I don't know about stil

Guess who the only one not getting anything extra?

Why is this? You don't get any up grade if everyone else does??? What is going on?

sometimes she treats me like she hates my guts. I only see small glimpses of her caring at all.

Don't take to personal H acts this way too. So isn't just W. Hard for W too. We have to remember this our S's aren't in all happy happy land. BTW, has court recieved your papers for C request? Or is that way in future? Have you started to find a solution base C? If haven't get going as once back to work...well you know how it is. We get tyied up in stuff and never have time or energy to make calls. Try to use your down time to your advantage.

I guess I'll have to go along with D and keep DBing

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Mike! No you do not have to go along with D ! Maybe you can't stop it but you don't have to go along with it. Say is your attorney anti-divorce and working hard for you? BTW, here is another way to move D up further (longer) date wise. Anounce you have changed attorny's and need additional time for attorney to review case! HA !

I like most wines

Good wouldn't have much trouble finding a wine to for holiday sipping! I like reds best with pasta. All wines, like Dry can not stand sweet wines. Ever have a dessert wine? Whew, has to be 20% sugar. lol
later,
grid