Well I'm kinda in a catch 22, as a lawyer, even though I don't practice this area, she could always go to Court later on and throw this thing open and say she was pushed. The Court would have no problem reopening the settlement at D and rearragning the mattter.
On that note, if I could get her to sign an antinuptial agreement that says the same thing but stay married, should I go for it. It would be submitted to the court if things went bad, and it would be considered, but basically I think I would be the same position as if we D'ed and then worked it out.
I can't legally fully protect myself, because of my career, no matter what I do it can be seen as manipulation. But I think on the pro side, I give her a little and she sees some trust, but I have a back up. Either way I can be screwed.
However, since I just started my career, there isn't that much of a pie to divide up. I'm totally in the red, Dad is going to invest in part of the house to keep me afloat. I have plans to make some more money but it would take longer then realizing if W is serious. So I don't see a point in at least not trying with the antinuptial agreement. I end up in the same place if it goes south. That is an assumption, but I deal with a guy who all day reopens divorce settlements and rearranges the matter, better or worse for some. It's not always final.
