jab - posts like the one you left on my thread a little while ago mean a lot to me, especially right now. Thank you. As for how I found you - I don't know, I just strolled over to Newcomers late one night and clicked on your thread. Yours was the only thread I read that night and to this day is still the only one I read over here. Divine intervention? Maybe. You've started out of the gate fairly well but let's see how you handle the turns before we say this little intervention was God-ordained, shall we? ;\) I'm just joking but I WILL be the first one to tell you that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'd be lying if I said anything to the contrary.

Do you know why your wife is responding to you as she is?
It is because you are being the man she has always wanted and needed you to be. You have made some tough decisions and she respects that. She is looking to you to guide her. That my friend IS definitely a God-ordained role. You are supposed to be the leader - and also the spiritual head (but you can get there in time)- of your family. She is a strong & capable woman yes, but she is responding to your leadership. And she misses you. Don't you dare piss that away by becoming arrogant, bossy, needy or clingy. Be a man. Be HER man. You can do this. You have SEVERAL good men talking to you daily. Be real with them. They will help you. They've been where you are, or at least in a similar place. Listen to them. Always listen more than you speak and while you are finding your inner, dominant male be careful of the temptation to become domineering. It is a snare and you will meet it and have to step over it. There are many snares that no one can warn you about. Be vigilant. Stay focused. Stay the course. Check yourself always. Then recheck yourself. Pray before you speak that you are able to convey properly what is in your heart. Pray for wisdom and guidance and know that He uses people like COG, Frank, Jeff and Jack (among others) to dispense it.

Just work the steps, jab.

One day at a time.



AmyC