Thank you! You're absolutely right about that aspect of our relationship. I have learned the hard way that although I think I am helping, I inevitably make him feel like a 5-year-old. That's great for a relationship. However, I do feel kinda "damned if I do, damned if I don't" in some situations, because when I don't speak up to remind about something, it often ends up in a situation that screws me over in some way. But I guess that is what it takes to get the point across.
And I see the way my mom is, and I love my mom - don't get me wrong - but I see aspects of her in myself; aspects that drive me crazy!! And I see how that could be a problem. The funny thing is, I believe I would LOVE to have my H be more of a take-charge person, and take some of that off of me. He's a great dad, much more involved than lots of men I know, but when it comes to the little details - things he never ever has to think about I'm sure - it's always me. And when I try to explain that to him, he doesn't get it. It could just be a man-woman difference type of thing. I'm not sure.
All I know is he's up north hunting this weekend and I felt a definite sense of relief when he walked out the door: mostly because he's been so grouchy about his work situation, and I'm just tired of feeling like I'm on eggshells all the time.
I'm pretty tired, gonna head to bed. It has been a long, long day! I will scour the other boards for some insight; I know there is a lot of experience in these forums.
