I have found... with myself... that the more I work at turning him on (without teasing... this is one-on-one sex, not some drunk bar flirtation, talking naughty banter, kwis? There's money where my mouth is, so to speak \:\) )... the more turned on I get... so I'm actually doing what it is I am doing... more for me... than him. Turning HIM on... turns ME on... and I like being turned on... cuz I WANT something out of this encounter...