Back at DB/new marriage new WAW

[dh4320]

Well as far as her attorney, she told her aunt she hired the best attorney in Dallas, i told her aunt im sure thats what he told her, i tell people im the best at what i do to, when we were in mediation he was answering his cell phone saying "law offices" so the cheesed!ck cant even pay for a secretary, ya he is a tiger..hehe my attorney has practied law for 35 years and is the toughest attorney i the county, he also has lunch with the judge seeing our case 2 times a week, probably doesnt hurt me too much, but he looked into her attorney who has been suspended by the bar 3 times in the last 5 years, good attorneys do not get suspended like that attorneys that get suspeneded do not live up to their fiduciary duty to their client. I dont know if the 20K was a retainer or not, but i bet you b4 we go to court he will ask for more and she wont have it. Another thing her gas card company is calling the house now so i am sure she has not made a payment. Atlas i know its not illegal to go to hooters but the judge will count that against her as far as her credibility. I told my neighbor tonight that i am turning missing her into just not liking her anymore, the things she does, and the neglect of the children again make me question if God stepped in to make this happen for the safety of my children, its starting to become more believable now. I was never much of a church person but i am seeing how the bible and God are not miracle workers but there is a lot of guidance in both of them.

[dh4320]

also i can sue OM for interference of a marriage in my state, i am still contemplating this, and if i get full custody i will sue her for support.

[dh4320]

i know this is not db practicing but i dont think the W will ever come around and realize what she has done... im not upset just thinking realistically..

[dh4320]

now i have to take my 5 month old to the ER, I woke up early this morning feeling like God is really throwing curve balls at me, well i will hit one of them out of the park soon. In any case i have decided when the W emails or calls again i will just say no more, i will see you in court we all want but we all cant have.....

[Atlas]

The ER? is the 5 month old Ok?

I would defiently legally protect yourself and your kids. That is a given, but you don't have to push her away while doing it. No matter what she will always be the mother of these kids, and making it bitter, only hurts them in the long run.

Take a few deep breaths and let things lay as they are. Use the 48 hour rule, no drastic decision making for 48 hours. I would defiently call W and tell her your taking or took the 5 month old to the hospital. Boy or girl?

[dh4320]

Its our little girl, i am taking a deep breathe what else can happen i cant wait for this year to be over with.

[Atlas]

Any word, how is she? Hope she is alright.

[dh4320]

She is ok, a friend of mine is with her at the hospital they are keeping her overnight so i am going back there and going to spend the night at the hospital. The W came by the hospital and it did not go over well, it was hard for me to DB in regards to our M but we argued and i told her to leave, she did. I also informed her that i was going to fight for primary, she said she figured that and asked her why her nor her attorney has answered to the petition of divorce i filed a month ago. She said she was waiting for what we agreed upon to get handled first. I told her you can still answer the petition. I also said i want to get on with my life and get this crap over with, so basically i just said i dont have anymore energy to deal with this M.

[ann25]

I'm glad the little one is ok.

That's got to be a hard place to be. You've done alot, put up with alot and you have to live your life now for you and the kids.

How did she take it when you told her you needed to move on and didn't have the energy for this?

ann

[dh4320]

Well she didnt really respond, she said she would kie this all to move on as well. but she sent me an email which i read on my blackberry

here it is:

This is all I have to say.......since you cant be around me with out picking a fight,

Regarding our children, I rely on Cindy for info because you're not considerate enough to let me know when they're sick, or answer the phone or even return my voice mails. You only do this out of spite. We both know who truly showed concern and interest in our kids during our marriage. And it's quite refreshing to see that you are finally experiencing what I have experienced with each of them from their birth until just a few weeks ago. See what you have been missng out on over these last few years? Too bad it is so late in the game, things might have been different for us. Keep it up. Our children deserve your attention and I'm glad they are finally getting it.

Regarding the financial issues, it's apparent you will also be unattentive and lazy (as with our children), until you are completely forced to do the right thing. Why not keep your word and provide what you promised me? The car question isn't answered by you saying "I've handled Zach". Did you pay him the 5K?! You keep telling me you are going to, but we both know what you SAY and what you DO are always two completely different things. Also, it's your own fault if it's costing you 10K. You know the history of our car situation, and it's your own doing. That's WHY you've agreed to pay the 5K. So do it and quit whining. And will you turn over the TV or not? That's not a money issue, Derek - that's just you being rude and spiteful again.

I'll give you more details about my life when I feel like it. You just provide what you've said you would. My love & concern for the kids is inherent, and I don't need to prove that to you in every email regarding finances. I'm trying to establish myself, in order to then be able to take care of the kids, as you agreed. This should be obvious, but I forget - you're not the brightest or most sensitive person, are you.

Thanks for the constant reminders why I left you.

So i responded to this that i will not be a backboard for her to justify leaving. I told her that i will not have my kids raised by a woman who books bar gigs and runs from everything difficult in her life. I told her that what is happening is not spite its reality.

So people where do i go from here????

OBTW i texted her and stated i was sorry about the R discussion it was not the right place or time and let her know i have been upset about our daughter being sick.. thats all i wrote