Of course those left behind often get labelled as having unrealistic expectations, almost of being inhibited and boring, rather than people who recognise that at times Rs require real effort to make them great. Out of interest is your H an only child?
Interesting point about the inhibited and boring. I've been accused of that before.
H is the youngest of two. Growing up he was very spoiled. He has always been cute and charming and has definitely used that to his advantage. And when he didn't get his way, he would just throw a fit until he did.
For now, I will stick with the idea of doing the Christmas thing together. I will also give myself "permission" to change my mind.
I stopped by my old office and was talking with one of my friends there and we had a really good talk. She went thru a sort of "string along" relationship for 3 years. The guy would say very similar thing to what my H is saying. A couple months ago, she met someone off of yahoo personals. Long story short- they are living together and quite happy. She told me that she didn't believe she could do better than the crumbs she was getting, but meeting this new guy has opened her eyes. Anyway, it gave me hope.
Max, I am like you, I read entire books before doing the exercises--I have to admit I don't normally go back to do them. Are you really going to go back thru the book and do the exercises?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
