Hey Max - My H had an exclusive R with an OW. He started his EA with her 10/05, PA 12/05, ended his R 3/07, rekindled 8/07, ended 9/07. According to my H, he came back becuase he believes it is the right thing to do. I think he still struggles with his feelings for her and me, but is concentrating on doing the right thing. I decided to stand and there are times (like today) when I question staying in this M. I deserve more. If it weren't for my faith, I wouldn't be standing. There would be no point. I wouldn't consider my H 100% back in this R, but I would say that he is 100% done with his A.
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If so why do you think it happened and how did it affect you?
I assume you are asking why I think his A happened. It happened because my H had no idea who he was. He lost sight of what he believed and what he felt was the right thing to do. How did it affect me? It made me realize that I too lost sight of who I was. I thought my H was responsible for my happiness - crazy, I know. We haven't been married that long, almost 5 years, and they have been turbulent days since day 1. Both of us were relying on one another to complete each other - impossible - and we both failed each other miserably. We are now at a place where we are both working on making ourselves happy - and that helps to make each other happy.
Hope this helps... Em
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Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
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