blindided....he is being a cold and heartless jerk. My H did the same thing for the first 6 weeks of my sons life. He just told me that one of the reasons he was doing this was because I wasn't getting it. I kept thinking there was hope and he did not want to give me false hope. So he was complete an utter A$$H*!E. In his eyes at this very moment it is over, done, complete, finished, kaput! NOTHING I can say or do will convince him otherwise. So he will do whatever cruel things he needs to jam it down my throat. I think that this could be true for your H too. You're not accepting what he telling you is reality. You are ignoring what he believes he feels to be right and telling him he should feel another way. If he's going to make you see the truth (as he sees it) he's going to have to drive that point home to you somehow and this is how. Talking about OW and his life with her is about him showing you he is in control. Stop giving him reasons to reinforce this with you. You're just hurting yourself.
Don't listen to what other people say. Every one in the world has 20/20 vision looking backwards.
Show him you're in control...but for yourself. STOP giving him reasons to reinforce his feelings...every time you make him repeat it you make it more true for him.
I agree with SO2...go pitch black. Really...what do you have to lose? J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
