Go do it, bombardier. It's the only way. The only thing that will happen if you don't expose, expose, expose is that the affair will go underground.
Raise hell. With love. And don't let her weasel her way out. And don't let her talk you into not telling OM's wife. She needs to know. Chances are OM doesn't really want to end his marriage, and his wife will be an important ally.
There's an undercurrent of strength in your posts, just as there was in Choc's. You can do this.
