Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

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I'm trying to fathom my W's body language on the few occasions I've met with her recently. She looks away or to the ground and is very fidgety, tends to get up and want to leave every few minutes. Breaks into tears, blames me for everything under the sun. Is it guilt, anger, hatred or something else? (Of course I'm learning how not to react to these outbursts and there's symptoms of MLC, etc. but that's besides the point)

It's now clear she was friendly with OM for ~2 years prior to filing D and he helped her do it but she was very secretive about it all along and in that time did/said a lot to push my buttons. When asked about him by others she'd say he's "just a friend". She has told me earlier of her own accord she's not having an A with OM ... and more recently that she does not talk to him anymore.

I'm trying to determine if it was an EA or PA and what can I believe of what she's been saying. I think women who have been thru' the pain of this due to unhappiness in their marriage may have a much better perspective.