MTN, I'm sorry this happened. It's just another saga in what is the disgusting life of your H and the Rat.
What do you want? What can you really do? You want your sons pic out of it, right? Not thinking that telling your H is going help - given past experiences.
What can you do legally? Find out. Just do it.
This is what I think. I feel that you are constantly pulled into this awful, extra-trashy version of your XH's life newly, post divorce. I know you're trying to get your kids out of this, and get yourself away from this back to normal life.
To that end, my thoughts are to figure out what exactly involves YOU...stick to that, and disentangle yourself in a way that is normal, legal and swift.
I can almost predict what response you will get from XH. He will ignore it, or thrash you, or Rat. He's insane. This whole thing is insane. And, you get sucked back into it. When has going to him for anything helped. Never.
Just go through the legal route directly. Why warn him? Just do it. For that, the credit blooper, stripping in front of your kids, everything. By going to him, or trying to speak rationally with the Rat, has gotten you nowhere. It hasn't worked for 3 years, and it won't now.
And, stick to what concerns you and getting yourself away from this trashy drama. Just the picture. Why bother knowing if Rat has a profile, how much she has lied, about XH's new girl, what she is getting into, and the general drama between them all. It only hurts you and your kids....over and over again.
